Friday, September 12, 2014

You're Only a Victim, If You Allow Yourself to Become One


 
"You're only a victim, if you allow yourself to become one."

When I think of that phrase, I think of my mother, who is laying the hospital bed beside of me at the moment. She's always been against being the victim. This doesn't mean that she's never had anything terrible happen to her. This just means that she believes in being strong and doing what you have to do, not for recognition, but only for survival and happiness for self.

She was in an physically abusive marriage, had everything she had worked her ass off for, destroyed in a flood, laid beside her first born son in a hospital bed and whispered to him that it was okay to go, and was with him a little bit later when he took his last breath, and a ton of other things that has happened in her lifetime. Now, she struggles with an inoperable brain tumor. Interestingly enough, she's not complaining. Even after being in the E.R. for almost 12 hours, she had a smile on her face.

When I look at the media and the state of the world, I see a society that makes it cool to be a victim. Instead of making a point to achieve goals, we're told that we should be offended and lazy. Thing's didn't go your way today? Someone must hate you. Did you not get that new iPhone? It's because someone believes you didn't deserve it. You should start a revolution until you get that damn iPhone.

This doesn't mean that you shouldn't complain, or that you shouldn't feel bad. Sometimes, you need some time to refresh yourself, work through things, but move on. When people spend more time bringing it to everyone's attention that they're a victim, instead of doing something to better their situation, then they are the ones who put themselves in that situation. This has become a major problem in modern society.

So what do we do? I think we need to look at our ancestors. In the most difficult times, instead of limiting ourselves based on other's standards, why not do something to better ourselves. Our ancestors worked and fought so that we could get to this point, and now, it's almost a waste if we don't become more active in our own lives. Through hard work, finding happiness in yourself and your family, and by not giving up, just because something is difficult, you honor our ancestors. When we breed those virtues in our children, we, in turn, will be honored by our descendants.



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